What do I learn and take away from it?
Struggle means "to experience difficulty and make a very great effort to do something". Yeah! That's what I am doing in searching to find the way out of struggle. When I resist, it's getting worse. I struggle more and it persists in my life. That's the funny Heh!.
Almost 9 years now, I put a great deal of effort and investment in learning and development for my personal growth and spiritual development. At the beginning, my intention was to search for the way to handle my setbacks, discover my potential to breakthrough the limitations and shift my life for the better. But I discovered after the years past that I am the one who imposes those limitations on myself and the challenges constantly showed up which often made me struggling. After understanding about Neuroscience and how the brain works, I realize that I am the one who creates my destiny. I hardwire my brain for struggling and believing that I am not good enough and constantly strive for perfection. This is hard for one human being that always being hit by the false belief to strive for perfection and value compliment and recognition from others. That's HARD, right?
The truth now is I am still struggling from time to time. But the difference is I am not always a victim of my circumstances. The insight I have from several years of my inner work is I feel comfort to indulge into the victimhood even I don't want it in my life. It's painful but I get used to it. By getting used to, I am tolerated to be struggling. This realization hits me on my head and down to my heart.
The wisdom is I don't have the intention to struggle but I feel comfort to be struggling. Struggling makes me feel that I am existing. But who want to exist this way. Do You?
Without self-awareness, I will complain, blame, judge myself and/or others, be resentful, guilty, frustrated about the situations and even carried the negative energy around which is unhealthy to my body, mind and spirit. I easily trigger as my mood swings with a burden on my shoulder. With self-awareness, I come back to myself observing my thought, practicing the learning from my inner work and continuing to learn and understand myself more in order to shift from inside-out. For sure, what I focus on expands. I discover the wisdom from struggling. But SORRY! I can not show you how it happened. As human begins, we continue to grow and evolve our consciousness from lesson to lesson in our life. Anyway, I can guarantee you that IT WILL BE BETTER ALONG THE JOURNEY OF LIFE!
As said, LIFE IS A JOURNEY NOT A DESTINATION! I am truly grateful and not hesitated that every lesson and challenge counts and it greatly supports me along the way. To make it short, one trick I discover from the coaching session with my coach (Leon VaderPol, www.centerfortransformationalcoaching.com) is ATTACHMENT makes life struggling. I attach to the beliefs that I need to be good enough and perfect. I attach to the outcome not the process. Even I don't want to struggle, I attach to the feelings and uneasiness while I am struggling. For sure, what I mention I don't want it to happen in my life.
From the quick video that Leon sent, I want to share with all of you as it's thought-provoking for me. I learn the trick and it's an easy way to fast track the unserving patterns of my mind. The trick is JUST STOP IT! STOP STRUGGLING! That’s why I have a CHOICE. This is my FREE WILL and it's a matter of choice whether to continue struggling or just stop it!